Some people might
think that our personality is something we just have that identifies us
as being one type of person or another and in some sense there is an
element of truth to this concept. I look at a personality as something we have some control
over. There are areas of
everyone's personality that is best enhanced and shown off while there
are other traits best left hidden for the most part.
Humor is something I like to see in someone's personality, a sense of acceptance that not every thing always falls into an exact pattern and that life sometimes makes a fool of all of us. Someone that has the ability to accept the unexpected gracefully and who is able to find humor when the first response might be anger or frustration lightens the mood and takes the edge off a negative situation. Humor needs to be controlled and used appropriately so that it is not used to torment or humiliate others.
The ability to
reason or common sense is very important as a personality trait.
It shows that the person has the ability to "think outside
the box" or find a solution that is acceptable but not necessarily
the first choice or the common choice.
It shows that the person uses their intelligence and is thinking
about things in a holistic manner.
Pride is a quality
that I like to see in a person, and this is different from arrogance or
self-importance. The pride I think is important is shown in how you see
yourself and your accomplishments.
There is never a harsher critique than you.
You need to accept that you have faults and that there are times
you need to forgive yourself but you always need to have a sense of
pride in who you are and what you feel about yourself.
If you have this inner acceptance then it is not hard for the
rest of the world to appreciate who you are.
There will never
be enough kind and gentle people in this world.
We all look for this quality in the people that we associate with
and want to be close to in our lives.
In every culture and every religion there has been places of
honor for those who exhibited kindness.
Little acts of kindness add up to a lot when combined over time.
Take time to help someone who needs a hand, give of yourself and
you will be repaid ten times over in the rewards of inner satisfaction.
I believe each act of kindness makes you respect yourself and
life as a whole. We are not
here to revolve in our own little worlds but to interact with all our
fellowmen and as a complex and often confusing mix attempt to make our
collective existence better.
Patience and understanding are two other qualities that I believe are highly considered in an individual. Patience does not mean that you wait forever but it does mean that you let things happen in their own accord and occasionally you might have to prod things along.
Understanding is a
quality with a broad definition that takes in knowledge or an acceptance
to be aware of emotions, and circumstances, and personalities that may
be entirely different from your own.
believe that if we work on these qualities that we will be better people
and also we will be accepted by our fellowmen as valuable members of our
society. There will be
times when you might not show your best personality traits to others but
know that you are the mistress of these qualities and you can choose to
enhance the best ones that you want as your personality.
Cheryl C. Helynck